Seeing With My Eyes And My Heart

I had no idea a new pair of glasses could teach me a life lesson. Last week, I decided to get progressive lens — a fancy name for no-line trifocals. My first pair. I kept losing my readers. When you advance to progressives, you don’t take them off and on.

Picking out my frames, I texted pictures to my fashion savvy daughter.


After a bunch of “MOM, NO!!!” texts, I finally chose the pair on the left.


Friday night, I was so excited. My new glasses were ready. I slipped them on in the store. Ta-dah!

Then I tried to walk. My hands got clammy. I thought I might throw up. “Feels like my head’s stuck in a fishbowl,” I said to the saleslady.

“Point your nose toward what you want to see. The more you wear them, the quicker you’ll adjust.”

Adjust? To walking and moving my head? “How long does it take? A few hours?”

“Anywhere from a week to a month. Don’t shift your eyes, honey. Turn your head.”

This is ridiculous. I shouldn’t have to change to see.

As I baby-stepped to the door, she called out, “Look down when you step off the curb.”

I didn’t trip walking to the car, but at home, I bumped into plenty of things.

The first two days, I considered asking for a refund.

And then on day three, I remembered the saleslady had worn progressive lens. Maybe she knew what she was talking about. I decided to follow her instructions.


By the afternoon, I became Alice in Wonderland. I noticed what kind of birds were at the feeder, tiny drops of rain, and even dirty spots on my  cabinets. Because of my stubborness, I almost missed out.

To experience a new way of living, I had to:

1. Listen to the truth.

2. Trust someone who knew more than I did.

3. Let go of my old ways.

Anyone working on changing? I understand. I hope this helps.






















  1. It does help, thanks:) I am still bumping into things but trying to change the direction in which I look. Blessings as you see!

  2. Yep. That’s the secret, Tom. Changing the direction we look. 🙂

  3. anna haney says:

    I chid the same thing when I got mine. Great life lesson.

  4. How hard it is for most of us to relinquish control and just listen, trust and let go. This is something I am always working on! Great post. Thanks, Julie.

  5. Love the post, sweet Julie. I love reading the truths God shows you. Thank you so much for sharing.
    I’m grateful you are walking steady. I broke my nose the day I got my new glasses. 🙂

    Love you, sweet friend!

    • Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, no you didn’t, Lisa!!! I studied your adorable glasses before I got mine. You look cute in any pair 🙂

  6. Listen, trust, and let go. Wise words indeed…although it’s certainly easier to say than it is to do! Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

  7. Ahh Julie! Do you always have to be right? lol- I buy my readers in bulk because I lose them but I know I need to – ick- change- what I’m doing and go through the – ick- transition- of getting used to wearing glasses all the time! Thank you for encouraging me in practical and spiritual things! hugs

    • Cindy, I guess I could have hung on a little longer with just my readers. But I got so tired of pushing them up, down, losing them, trying to see when I opened my billfold at the grocery store, etc.

      If you get them, don’t panic when you first put them on. Honestly, I got them Friday. It hasn’t even been a week. I had them tightened yesterday and they told me to expect two weeks before I’m completely comfortable with them. They DO help with driving at night. Makes me feel a lot more comfortable with that.

      Let me know if you get them!

  8. There’s something about this line you wrote: “Don’t shift your eyes, honey. Turn your head.” It speaks to me for some reason. Maybe because there is so much in front of me that I shift my eyes to…looking at this and that and then this and that. Maybe, instead of shifting my eyes, I should turn my head…AWAY from this and that, and toward a new direction, a new focus, a new path. Sometimes I think I’m doing things right, but God wants me to be doing something different. And often, if I do what you said: LISTEN, TRUST, and LET GO, God shows me exactly where He wants me to be. Thank you, Julie!

    • I know, B.J. When the woman said, “Don’t shift your eyes, honey” it was PROFOUND for me. Like, hang on, this is gonna be important.

      Love how you say to turn your head to a new direction. Another truth with my glasses.

      You’re so welcome, my friend.

  9. Julie Gilleand says:

    I cringed when told I’d need bifocals, but picked out a couple pairs and picked them up a week later. I could not stand the different “views” out the same lenses! It was probably dumb to try driving right away with them on and quickly enough, I took them off, for safety’s sake! But to this day, I only use them as readers. Rarely do I wear them continuously. Not sure if I didn’t think I’d ever get used to them or if I just was not patient enough (probably the latter!), but in the two years I’ve had them, they are still just readers for me. I wonder what that says for my spiritual vision or focus! Hmmm. Something to think on. Thanks for sharing, and by the way, they look great on you!

    Other Julie/Leaf sister 🙂

    • Hey Leaf Sissy,

      That’s the thing–they are really good for driving…but for readers, I’m not so sure. I have to push them up a notch. Just a tiny bit, I guess so I can see out the bottom part.

      Today I’m trying to pretend I’m not wearing them. Even on the computer. I think today’s the best day so far.

      Send me a pic of you wearing yours.

  10. Patricia Martin says:

    You look fabulous in your new glasses, Julie! (: I think change can be very hard sometimes, but God is always there to carry us through each new change that we encounter. (; How are your daughters doing? Many of my family members have glasses and are glad the glasses let them see all “the fine and subtle details.” Happy first week of February!

    • Hey Patricia,

      My daughters are good, thank you. They live close by, and we talk at least once a day. 🙂 I love that about having girls. My son doesn’t talk near as much.

      I didn’t end up getting the ones you see me wearing in the blog post. But they look sorta like them….still getting used to them. I just had no idea you had to get used to wearing glasses. HA!

      Hope all is well in your world, my friend.


  11. Cindy Hyatt says:

    Because I’m in the middle of getting ready to go on a cruise on Saturday (this is Wednesday)
    I don’t have time to read all your articles today, but have thoroughly enjoyed the few I have read.
    I had the progressive trifocals experiences bout 12-13 years ago….I completely understand!!
    It took me awhile…probably close to two weeks… to get used to them.
    I’m SO glad to have found your site!!! You’re a true blessing!!!

    • Hey Cindy,

      How fun! Getting ready to go on a cruise. Hope you have an amazing time!!

      It’s wonderful to meet you. Thanks so much for letting me know you’re reading…and that you got used to progressives. It’s better now. Hasn’t been a month yet.


  12. Listen, Trust, Let Go…ok. I’m hanging on to this take away. Two of those things are soooo hard for me! xo

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