Mom and Me and Ministry

Saturday morning, 6:50, Mother called. “I’m on your driveway,” she said. “I’m early. I’ll sit in my car ’til you’re ready.”

Years ago, I didn’t plan to be speaking, teaching, and writing like my mother Marion Bond West. We were co-teaching at East Metro Atlanta Christian Writers Conference.

“Look at these terrible hose,” she said, hopping into my car.

“What’s wrong with them?”

“Last night, I laid everything out–my clothes, my shoes, and my wonderful toeless nude hose. I put on my hose this morning and they had a run. So I had to wear this ridiculous pair. I look like Carol Burnett.”

I tried my best not to laugh. Her hose were fine, but Eunice and Mama.



She stretched out her legs on the dash to show me. “I planned to wear heels with toeless hose, but I had to wear flats. And these stupid hose.”

“Mother, stop. You look cute.”

(Her shoes–I have a pair just like them.)

“You’re just being nice,” she said. “I look like ‘Marion the Librarian.'”

“Hush. You do not.”

“That’s real sweet of you to say, but–”

“Want me to stop by Walmart?”

Her face blanched. “Are they that bad?”

“No, Mother.” I sighed.

Later on…

After we finished teaching, she whispered, “You have a sticker stuck to your shirt.”

“Why didn’t you tell me?”

“I didn’t want to embarrass you.”

“So you let me teach with a sticker stuck to my shirt?”


“If I’d told you while you were teaching, you’d have blushed.”


On the way home…

“Today was nice,” I said. “Nobody noticed your hose.”

“I forgot all about them. I had fun. We laughed and they laughed with us.”

“I guess it’s not about hose or stickers, is it?”

“Nope. It’s about being real and giving yourself away,” she said.

Mother in her Carol Burnett hose, and me with a sticker stuck to my shirt shared a little bit about honest writing.

Maybe a little bit about honest living, too.

Have you stumbled onto this Truth?

It’s not about me.


Julie (and Marion/Eunice) 🙂








  1. Wow, great lesson on honesty. Isn’t it great how we can experience God and how our insecurities can be laid aside. Just share what we have warts, umm…hose, stickers and all. His message will be heard and our ineptness proves Him. Blessings and thank you for your honesty that frees us from the fears of our ego!

  2. Julie Lavender says:

    I noticed your mother’s shoes on Saturday (not her hose), because I’d thought how cute yours were the day before. Your mom, in our chatting, told me that she’d driven to your house first on Saturday morning, so I decided she must have needed to borrow your shoes for some reason!

    Yes, both of you did indeed teach us about writing, honest living, and Truth, and we all benefitted greatly! Thanks for sharing your heart on Saturday and in these posts.

    Love from a new friend,
    Julie Lavender

    • Ohhh, thank you, Julie. I can’t even remember what shoes I wore the day before! No, she didn’t borrow my shoes–we just always leave from my house to go to Covington. 🙂 And we have the exact same pair of shoes. Same size and everything. 🙂

      Thank you, my friend. Loved, loved meeting you!!

  3. Anna Haney says:

    Honestly. This weeks’ post has perfect timing. There was an incident at church about which I was honest. When it happened, someone I love dearly agreed with my feelings. But when others realized what I had said, suddenly, my honestly was no longer a good thing, I was pretty much accused of lying. I feel abandoned. At the the same time, I still feel I HAVE to tell the truth about what happened. The same with a coworker who is trying to get a full time job. The Truth is what’s more important.

    • I’m so glad I wrote about it, Anna. You are a truth teller, my friend. That’s a wonderful attribute. You can’t NOT tell the truth. 🙂

      Love you, sweet friend.

  4. Patricia Martin says:

    Hi Julie,
    What a fun blog today and how wonderful that you and your mom get to be girls on the go together at writer’s conferences! I am sure while you both were speaking no one noticed the sticker on your shirt or your mother’s hose, and my family loves watching The Carol Burnett show. Mama is a hoot! (: May be you’ll come to Southwest for a writer’s conference? Blessings to you and your family.
    Love ,
    Patricia Martin

    • Patricia, I hadn’t thought about the Carol Burnett show in years–isn’t she wonderful!!

      It was so NOT about the sticker or hose. We experienced a beautiful lesson.

      Blessings right back to you!! xoxoxo

  5. Katie says:

    You both look so pretty 🙂 I did laugh when I read that you taught with a sticker on your shirt 😉 Glad it went well!! Love you.

    • Well, daughter, Katie–I hope you’d have TOLD me about the sticker!! And not just laugh. xoxo Love you too.

  6. You and your beautiful mama! Oh, how I’d love to have been at that conference. And thanks for the memories and the laughs with the video!

  7. Oh, man, I sat and laughed out loud at Carol Burnett and her funny Momma. What a neat way to start my day! Thank you!

    • B.J., is there anyone funnier than Carol Burnett???!!! And when Mother compared herself to Carol, how could I NOT laugh!!

      Wish you could’ve been there Saturday. xoxo

  8. Love this post, Julie. Makes me smile. You two are such a blessing. Tell Marion I want to see that pair of hose sometime!! Much love, Bev

    • I sure will, Bev. They were a HUGE deal to her, but really, no one noticed. Thank you, my friend. Love you.

  9. I LOVE this, Julie! What fun it must be to share such a special connection with your mom.

    And thanks for the Carol Burnett clip. Brought back such great memories. They just don’t make comedy like they used to, do they?

    • Ohhh, Vonda, how I miss Carol B…but YOU can be funny!! You can pull it off. Why don’t you work up a new Carol/Vonda skit??? Pleeeeeeeeeease, and put it on Youtube!

  10. Patricia Martin says:

    Hope you are enjoying beautiful Fall weather, Julie! I think you have the best blog on guideposts. (: Please say prayers for my pre-calculus retest on Friday.
    Love, Patricia

    • You’re too kind, Patricia! Yes, I will say a pray on Friday…am writing in on my calendar now. Let me know how you do!!

      Much love!

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