Party Panic ~ Orange, Purple, and the Power of Prayer!

Party panic has pestered me for years. I thought I’d finally beat it Thanksgiving when I hosted a PERFECTLY IMPERFECT THANKSGIVING and certainly when I blogged about it HERE. But the other day, I was at PARTY CITY shopping for purple and orange wedding shower decorations (bride’s choice) and I felt it creeping back.

My friend Teresa and I were hosting the shower in my home.

I was in charge of decorations.

I had no idea how to decorate with purple and orange. I’m a green and brown person.

Heather, the store manager, spotted me pacing the paper goods aisle. She said not to worry–that she’s decorated for parties at the GOVERNOR’S MANSION! Pretty soon, she had me all set–even demonstrated how to arrange everything.


Yay! No party panic this time.

Or so I thought.

Saturday, 3 a.m., the day of the shower, I woke from a deep sleep.

How could I have forgotten?

Nancy’s coming!

When I was growing up, Nancy threw a Christmas Open House gala every year.

She used fine bone china from Ireland.

Her name is all over the church cookbook.

I sat up in bed.

Wait a minute.

I know better than this.

I don’t have to be afraid.

There’s another way to live. 

Lord, help me.

Party panic floated away like a purple balloon, and I went back to sleep. 🙂

The next morning when Nancy arrived, I told her about my 3 a.m. fear. We had the best laugh!

Laughter dispelled every ounce of fear, scattering it like confetti.

Gratitude arose…

For my nearly 40-year friendship with Teresa and Lynn.

(Teresa’s in black. Lynn’s in green, the mother of the groom.)

I took time to see–really see–everyone at the party.

Kayla, the bride, all aglow, opening her presents.


The wonder of childhood…(bride’s nephew)

The bond between a mother and her daughters…

A new family starting…

Anticipation for the future…(groom’s sis holding bride’s niece)

Party Panic  (or any kind of fear) will take over…

If we let it.

But  there’s another way to live!

“…perfect love casts out fear…” 1 John 4:18 ESV.

Even 3 a.m. fear.




  1. I am a green and brown person too, Julie. And, waking up at 3:00 AM to worry about something. that is me too! Thank you for reminding me that we need not fear when we have the Lord right there with us. I am going to put this verse on my bedside table, so that when I wake up worrying, I can remember that “…perfect love casts out fear…”.

    • Eileen, we have so much in common!

      Wonderful idea–to put the verse right beside the bed! Love it, love it!

  2. Surrender helps dispel fear, and knowing that we are doing our best helps dispel fear too. I also suffered from deep fear (still do in some situations) but try hard not to let it overwhelm me. Prayer. Confiding in a good friend. Turning it over to God. Those help me a lot! Thanks for sharing your purple and orange party!

  3. Beautiful, B.J. Love your steps to surrender…and sometimes it’s a process.

    XOXOXO Love you.

    • Patricia Martin says:

      Hi Julie,
      I love reading your blog! After reading it I always have a song in my heart and a smile on my face! Thank you for sharing your wonderful words of wisdom with all of us. You and your husband look so young I thought your kids were in grade school! God Bless you and your family. (:
      P. S. Hope you have a great week!

      • Patricia, you just can’t imagine how it makes my heart sing to read your comment.

        I’m smiling right back at you!

        No…..I can’t believe it but our children are 32, 29, and 22.

        Hugs and lotsa love!

  4. Mary Wilkins says:

    I needed this today. I am such an introvert that I dread any sort of gathering – especially those in my own house. Learned last night that we may have company for Xmas. First thought, was “yikes”. Then I remembered I do much better to go at it like you do instead of dreading it for the next few months.

    • Me too, Mary! I’m an introvert. I’d much rather spend time with a few close friends that a huge group of people.

      So glad this post made sense to you. Thanks for letting me know–yep, it’s all part of surrendering.

  5. Oh my gosh- its so great to know someone who wrestles with panic and fear- I should just leave my boxing gloves on (lol) Isn’t God amazing to grow us- and stretch us? and I suppose we keep getting to have these “lessons”- ummmm tests- in our lives- so we can continue to mature in His love! hugs Julie!

    • Cindy, I love how you said this. LEAVE ON OUR BOXING GLOVES!

      I’m relieved~~whew~~~to find out you understand.


  6. Kim says:

    I actually read this before even one comment had been made and have been dwelling on this post ever since. Thinking, “Thankfully, I do not have this issue to deal with.” But, the more I thought, I realized it is really because I just avoid hosting like the plague. That way I do not have to face the overwhelming pressures. When I actually do have company I totally stress which leads to procrastinating. I end up just focusing on cleaning and the food because that is structure and comfort. Bringing this to my attention will make me think twice when the next opportunity arises and I am determined not to let fear win. I CAN do this. With God’s help. Thanks Julie!

    • Hey Kim,

      You can’t imagine how silly I felt posting it!! Like, nobody’s going to understand.

      I know what you mean about cleaning and food. I’d rather cook than clean though.

      Thank you. I’m smiling. 🙂 Someone understands. And I promise, once I named what I do (Party Panic) God has been so faithful to help me be free of it!


  7. Oh how I love how God sends me gentle reminders of His love for me. We are hosting a rehearsal dinner for our son’s wedding tomorrow night. This post is perfectly aligned with exactly how I’ve been feeling. I think I will sleep better tonight, Thank you!

    • Don’t you love how He does that, Felicia?! And it’s always so gentle, and from unexpected ways and people!

      Okay, it’s Friday morning. I’m praying for you. I know it will be beautiful!

      Julie–going now to check out your blog. 🙂

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