Do You Have a Bossy Friend Too?

I have a great friend. A writer. She’s a member of my critique group. We call her Bossy Pants. You’d think with a nickname like that, we don’t like her. Not true. We adore her. But this weekend, I knew she was wrong about something.

A few of us from our critique group attended a Guideposts workshop at The Peabody Hotel in Memphis, TN. Lunchtime came and the hotel staff arranged a gorgeous platter of meats and cheese beside a mountain of bread. I’d told them earlier that I have to eat gluten-free. (I have Celiac.)

“I’m putting your tray by itself,” a server said. Picking up my food, I noticed someone had accidentally put a plate of bread on top of my tray. Bread’s a no-no for me, so I moved it and sat down to eat.

“Julie,” Bossy Pants said. “That’s probably your bread.”

“Can’t be.”

“Why would she have given it to you?”

Servers make mistakes. “I’m fine with just meat and cheese.”

“Don’t you want a sandwich?”

Well, of course, but I can’t have one.

To prove I was right, I headed down the hall and found the server. “You must’ve put this bread on my tray by mistake. I can’t–”

“That bread’s especially for you, honey,” she said. “It’s gluten-free.”

I didn’t just get enough bread for a sandwich. I got SIX pieces of soft, warm GF bread!!

“You’re right again!” I hugged Bossy.

“Told ya.” Her real name is Stephanie Thompson. Saturday, she was presented with a plaque that says, “I’m not bossy. I’m just helpful.” 🙂

And she is.

Stephanie cares enough to:

1. Stand alone (if necessary) for what’s right.

2. Push you for your best.

3. “Speak the truth in love.” Ephesians 4:15

Do you have friends like Stephanie? Aren’t they wonderful!

P.S. The bread was from Rudi’s.


  1. ‘warm gluten free bread’ WHAT???? Oh my goooooodness! I love sweet Stephanie and am so glad she has the gift of bossy!!! xoxo

  2. Blessings in disguise. We could all use a friend like Stephanie.

  3. We eat Rudi’s Sprouted wheat bread! I love it. And I think BP is a cute nickname for her. Love the plaque. 🙂

  4. Uh….no comment. (and my writing partner had best not comment either…hee hee)

  5. ha! When I read the title of your post in my feed I thought, “tcha! I AM a bossy friend.”
    But after reading your blog I realized I don’t really qualify, because I’m not always right.

    How very considerate of your hotel to provide you with not only GF bread, but perfectly warmed GF bread! And how insightful of Ms Bossy Pants to ensure you benefited.

    I have not tried Rudi’s yet. I will see if my Sprouts store carries it… THANKS!

    • Well, there’ve been a few (very few) times when Bossy Pants missed it–by a hair, but we love her for how she speaks the truth. Keep talking, Melody. The world needs more Bossy Pants. 🙂

  6. Oh, yes, the friendships that sprouted from Mount Hermon are some of the best. So happy you and Stephanie had this great interchange at the refresher. What a blessing on both counts: friendship and bread!
    Hugs and love…

  7. I do have a friend like that…oh wait, she’s one in the same!! Stephanie may have earned her bossy nickname, but you are so right in that she speaks only from a place of love and caring. What I like best about Steph is that she strives for the best, AND she wants everyone else to get the best too. Her writing critiques are always honest and darned if they aren’t spot-on. We love you Steph! p.s. Glad you had a great time in Memphis.

  8. That’s exactly right, Meg. Steph does just that–she wants the best for each of us. Aren’t we just so blessed to know her!!!

  9. What a good friend! Yes, we all need friends like that. Hope y’all had a good time. 🙂

    • Yes, Vonda, and there’s no need to ask our dear Bossy friends their opinions unless we want to know the truth!

  10. Loved this blog, Julie. Especially since I was there to witness it.

  11. I know, Jennie! Wasn’t it a wonderful weekend. Now for my rewrite. 🙂

  12. A good kind of bossy friend! 🙂
    So glad my post on waiting was a help to you!

  13. Another comment! So excited to read that you’re a Guidepost writers workshop speaker! I’ve had a subscription to Guideposts for years and have thought attending a workshop would be great. So nice to “meet” you!

    • Elizabeth, one of the best ways to break in with Guideposts is to enter their writing contest. They have one every other year–in the fall. The next one will be in 2014. Once you win a writing contest, you’re invited to attend refresher workshops (by submitting a winning story). Watch their website for information. Blessings, my new friend. xoxo

  14. Jan O says:

    What kind of plague was your friend presented with : ) ? One of those Freudian slips . . . How wonderful to have fresh warm bread, BREAD, that you could eat and enjoy–hope it was delicious!

    • Julie says:

      Oh my!!! So glad you caught my boo-boo, Jan!!! Whew! Oh, we’ll. I’m grinning. 🙂

      Thanks for reading and catching a typo!

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