How Do I Love Thee?

The other night I couldn’t sleep. Thinking about life (I do that a lot) I remembered my mother’s one piece of advice before my husband Rick and I married almost 33 years ago.

“Julie, men and women are different. Women need to be cherished. Men need to be admired.”

I decided to mentally list the reasons I admire my husband:

1. He doesn’t worry. He trusts God for everything.

2. He makes me laugh. Every single day.

3. When he comes home at night, no matter how tired he is, if something is broken, he fixes it–the washing machine, dishwasher, kitchen faucet–whatever. And he doesn’t have to read the directions.

4. My new clothesline. With our youngest child turning 20 this year, I began missing the things I did when our three children were little, like hanging out clothes. On Mother’s Day weekend, Rick built me a clothesline (even though our dryer was working).

5. Porch parties. We spend the first few minutes of the day sitting on the front porch drinking coffee. Just the two of us. His idea.

6. He works long hours and doesn’t take many vacation days. He’s turned a lot of wrenches so I can write.

7. He listens to me. Really listens.

Filled with fresh gratitude, I prayed and fell asleep.

Thank you, Lord. The things I admire most about Rick make me feel cherished.

I can’t wait to show him this post!




  1. I love your list. I’m going to make a list of my own about my own hubby. What a wonderful thing to do to feel that cherished feeling. Thanks, Julie!

    • Julie says:

      I’m so glad, B.J. You and I are such list makers. 🙂 Thank you!

  2. Hi Julie,
    I love reading about your idyllic life in the country with your wonderful husband. While reading your list, I thought of how my husband is alike in many ways. For instance, last night when he came home from work, I was rearranging my office, and he went to the problem of hanging some things for me and trying to fix a lamp before we even had supper. What a patient man he is! I try never to take him for granted, and thank him and God each day. What a blessing to find that life partner that God made for us!

    • Julie says:

      I loved reading your words, Marilyn! Thank you for “getting” me. 🙂

  3. What a good exercise for all marriages. So often … TOO often … we focus on the little annoyances that come from living with another human. LOL I’m going to make mine now, Julie. Thank you for the reminder.

  4. Mike Roberts says:

    You are both so cool ~
    There may be others who could profit from this, think I’ll cut & paste!

  5. This is just the sweetest thing!

  6. Oh I loveeeeee Rick-o. For so many reasons, for one, he’s so much like Mike!
    I love you too Sweet Friend. I’m posting this on my wall …so amazing.

    • Julie says:

      I love you too, Rob. What if…..we got our two husbands together. Just think of all the things they could build. 🙂

  7. Great post and it is awesome to see that both of you are sticking to Mom’s advice. Special! Thanks for sharing!

    • Julie says:

      Thanks, Tom. Mothers are always right, aren’t they?

  8. Katie says:

    Soo sweet!! <3

  9. So sweet, your Rick is a treasure. I feel the same way about Mike. He puts his family first. He shows me he loves me in everything he does. Aren’t we so blessed to have wonderful husbands? And you knew just the thing to do…to thank God!

Speak Your Mind


This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.