One of my brothers used to say were the Scared Family. He had a dry sense of humor, and mostly, he was talking about my mother and me. Anything and everything was reason to be afraid. Very afraid.
Easter morning, forty years ago…
Mother’s hair was a little scary looking, don’t you think? And what about her tie?
Seriously, my brother was right.
Most of the things I’ve been afraid of never happened, but I lived through them just the same.
Hospital waiting rooms were particularly scary. But after fifty years, the Scared Family is changing.
Remember when my mother had her biopsy? My sister made fudge and we had a party. We didn’t do this years ago–combine biopsies with fudge and sunglasses and silliness.
The other day, my sweet step-father Gene fell taking out the trash and broke his hip. After being rushed to the hospital by ambulance, he had surgery. He’s in a rehab facility recuperating.
And look! Mother’s smiling in the waiting room during surgery. FYI, this is not the woman who raised me.
I’m sure I’ll have more scary times, but this much I know is true:
Fear doesn’t change the outcome. It’s exhausting, addictive, and leaves no room for good thoughts.
So what’s bringing change to the Scared Family?
1. We’re laughing more.
If there’s anything you can laugh about, laugh.
After surgery, Gene was confused coming out of anesthesia. “Why are we in the hospital?”
“We’re having a baby,” Mother said.
“Oh. Then why am I in the bed?”
“This time you’re doing the work.”
2. Take a break. Do normal things like fold the laundry, go to the grocery store, or even paint your toenails.
3. Pretend you’re not afraid. It works. Courage becomes real in your heart.
We’re told 365 times in the Bible not to be afraid.
“So do not fear, for I am with you…” Isaiah 41:10 NIV.
Have you battled fear too?