For years, I thought having the gift of hospitality meant throwing the perfect party. I got all serious and grim-faced. Stressin’ and obsessin’. Dusting. Cleaning. Straightening. Scrubbing. I wore myself out striving for perfection. But no more!
During my SURRENDER YEAR, I broke free (in lots of ways!) and discovered three secrets to throwing a great party.
My husband and I decided to celebrate Mother’s Day differently this year. We had our parents over for breakfast Saturday morning instead of eating out for lunch on Sunday. When you’re free of Party Panic, you can break traditions.
Did everything go perfectly? No. Would the old Julie have stressed over the flaws? Absolutely.
I used our wedding china and my grandmother’s stemware and green Depression glass serving pieces. I don’t have silver and Mother offered to bring hers.
While I was setting the table, she called. “Oops, we’re on the way and I forgot the silver.”
Ordinarily, I’d have panicked.
Fine china with everyday forks and spoons!
And I didn’t have enough of my grandmother’s green glasses, so I had to use a couple of yellow ones.
And I left the strawberries on the counter for two days and they got moldy.
And I burned the bottoms of the biscuits.
And I forgot to wipe the pollen off the doo-dads outside on the front porch.
But you know what? None of my imperfections mattered because…
…being free of Party Panic meant I could…
1. Forget about myself.
2. Have fun at my own parties.
3. Love others from my heart.
The root of my Party Panic and Perfectionism was PRIDE.
What a waste of time and energy!
There won’t be a perfect party until we get to Heaven.