I’ve been blessed to contribute devotionals to Daily Guideposts since 2003. The 2015 edition contains a Surrender Series I wrote about my word from 2012. A few days ago, Guideposts featured one of my devotionals from the series on their website.
In this devotional, I mention Al-Anon. Al-Anon is a 12-Step program for people like me who have a friend or family member who is an alcoholic.
So many times I return to Step One.
“We admitted we were powerless over alcohol–that our lives had become unmanageable.”
Surrender, for me, means admitting I’m powerless. Step One affects every part of my life.
I’m not only powerless over alcohol, I’m powerless over everything and everyone except my choices and my responses.
I’m powerless over people I love.
I’m powerless over others’ opinions of me.
I’m even powerless over whether or not the sun shines.
Moment-by-moment, I’m reminded that I’m not in control–even on my daily walks.
Last week Clyde (our Lab) and I walked the loop through the woods behind our house. We always circle the loop ten times. I noticed Kitty Thelma watching us.
“Kitty, kitty, come on. Walk with us.”
She swished her tail like she had better things to do.
Each time we passed her, the same thing happened. I begged her to come. She refused.
On loop number eight, she sharpened her claws.
Oh, good! Maybe she’s thinking about it.
I waited on her.
Nope. She stayed put.
Which brought me back to Surrender.
I’ve spent a lot of energy trying to change people.
Just like I’d done with Thelma–I was even trying to control my cat!
On my last loop, I smiled at her, but I didn’t try to change her mind.
Leaving the woods, I saw the sun peeking through the fall leaves.
Thank You, Lord. It’s not my job to change anyone. (Not even Thelma. )
I’m just supposed to work on myself.
Have you ever tried to change someone? Pointless, isn’t it.